Random Thoughts of an Angel

My daily thoughts

February 09, 2007

I'm back again!!




Well, it's been a little over a month since I last posted an entry. My niece Melanie is finally a year old and as cute as a button. Here, see for yourselves. She is standing but not yet walking but then again, she is only 18lbs. A real peanut!! I decided to seriously lose weight and have joined LA Weight Loss to do it. So far i'm down 9.6lbs and hope to lose another 180lbs. Wish me all luck. Well, that is all for my update. I'll keep you all posted on how the weight loss is going.

January 03, 2007

Happy New Year!!

Hi all!! Well, we are now in 2007 and boy did the past year fly by. So much has happened in my life and I know that I haven't really shared much of it on my blog but I do hope to start contributing to it more frequently. I think the biggest event for me was the birth of my very adorable niece, Melanie. She was born on January 21st and so in a few weeks will be turning one and I just can't believe how she has grown. My very adorable nephew Aidan began preschool this September and loves to learn. Personally for myself, Jimmy and I finally decided on an adoption agency and have pretty much decided where we would like to adopt our first child from. It seems that Columbia is the place so follow our journey as we proceed. Well that is all for my little update but I do plan to be back very soon.

November 24, 2006

Bad News for the Holiday

Well, today is Black Friday and i'm stuck at work. It could be worse. I could be stuck working in one of the stores that were open early this morning for the craziest shopping day of the year. Yesterday was Thanksgiving Day and although I had a great time with my husband and parents, we received bad news during dinner yesterday. My Uncle Howie passed away. He was my mom's older brother, just 74. We were all sad by the news but I didn't know him well because he wasn't involved in a lot of the family functions. This has been a really difficult year for my mom and her side of the family. In addition to my uncle passing yesterday, my Aunt Linda who is 3 years older than my mom at 60, almost died 3 weeks ago during open heart surgery but thank God she is recovering very well and is doing great now. In September, my Aunt Lorraine who was another of my mom's older sisters and my Godmother, passed away from Lung cancer. She was just 66 years old. I know that God doesn't give us more than we can handle but he sure is pushing it this year. For me, losing my Aunt Lorraine was very difficult because she was not only my favorite aunt but a second mother. She was my cheerleader and always made me feel special and I tried very hard to make both my parents and her proud. She had her faults as we all do but she was a wonderful and caring woman who was so strong. She always spoke her mind and you always knew where you stood with her. I know that she is with my grandmother now and they are looking down on us but with the news of my uncle dying, it brought all those feelings back about losing my aunt just 2 months ago. Sorry to make such a depressing post but this is the place to get all those thoughts and feelings out.

Until next time, bye.

September 29, 2006

Family pictures

Well, I was just thinking that I haven't posted any pics in a while. Here are some recent family pics.



This is my beautiful niece Melanie. She was born on 1-21-06. She was a preemie and only weighed 4lbs. 11oz. and she is still tiny but she is absolutely adorable and I love her to pieces. I should post a pic of me when I was a baby because you would be amazed at how much she looks like me except I was darker when I was her age and didn't have a birthmark on my forehead.

This handsome guy is my 4-year old nephew, Aidan. This was on his second day of pre-school. He is my little love. He has my sister call me up so he can talk to me. He is the sweetest and he loves his sister and our whole family alot.

This is it for now. I need to post pics of my girls when I get home from work because their pictures are on my home computer.

Catch you later. Bye Bye.

September 26, 2006

New Updates

Well, so much for posting regularly. I just looked over my last post and I have come to the conclusion that either I really have nothing great going on in my life or I just don't think to post when something does happen. I can use the excuse that I don't use the computer much when I get home from work. I guess my brain is saying that I use the computer more than enough at work and should keep it that way. I am posting right now from work but that is only because this just popped into my head.

Jimmy finally got his first paycheck after being out of work for almost 6 weeks. He lost his job after our close encounter with adopting a baby. I guess I can go into the story now. It is no secret that we haven't been able to conceive and we have looked into many different options but we both agreed that the baby doesn't have to be ours biologically because there really are a lot of kids that have no family. We have looked at so many different agencies and read many stories of other couples adopting. We have also heard all of the horrors that some couples go through trying to adopt but we basically decided that international adoption would be our best bet because once the baby is chosen for you, he or she is yours and there is no family to interfere, whereas, domestic adoption can be frightening, especially depending on what state you live in. New York has a 90 day waiting period before a domestic adoption is final. The other problem that I have with domestic adoption is that we have to advertise for a baby. So basically if the woman doesn't like your pictures or bio, they don't choose you and you could be waiting for a while.

Well back to our adoption story. My husband was working in a hospital here on Long Island for 4 years as an emergency room transporter. He brought E.R. patients to the various floors of the hospital. Well in the beginning of July, he had a patient to transport to labor/delivery. She was in her late 30's and was all alone. She was panicking because she thought she was 2 months early having the baby and she asked my husband if he knew the number to planned parenthood. He said no and asked her why? She told him that she wanted to place the baby up for adoption and didn't know who she should contact. My husband told her that we were looking to adopt and he thought that she was doing a wonderful thing for some lucky couple. He dropped her off and wished her luck. She delivered a baby boy later that day and asked the nurses how she could get in contact with the transporter who brought her from the ER. They told her who to contact and when my husband came in the next day, there was a message for him from her. He went up to see her and she told him that she would like to give the baby to us because he was very helpful and she didn't want her baby to go to a foster home. He called me and told me what she said and said that I could call her if I wanted to. He also said that he didn't want to see the baby without me. I was very nervous because I felt that it was way to fast and way too easy, especially after hearing how long some people wait to adopt in the US. Well I called her and she seemed really nice and very sincere in her wanting us to adopt him. She asked me to come to the hospital to see the baby and I had to go. I got to the hospital and with Jimmy, we went up to maternity and met her and she had him with her. He was the cutest little guy I had ever seen and her first words to us were, come look at your son. Those words were the best I had ever heard in my life. My entire life, I knew that I would be a mommy one day and this was the first time that it seemed like it really would happen. I couldn't take my eyes off of him. He was perfect and he was going to be mine. I now understand how every other mother feels for their new child. It was love at first site. We took pictures of him and she told us that she had to tell us before anyone else did. She had done cocaine once during the pregnancy and that the baby tested positive for it. We accepted that and said that it didn't change our minds one bit. She said that she told the hospital that she had a couple to adopt the baby and when the social worker from the hospital met us, that is when all the problems started. She was told that Child Protective Services would not interfere with our adoption plan and we had to get a lawyer and do all the necessary paperwork. We have friends that have adopted and they referred us to an attorney so that was all set up. We decided that we would name him Erik James, she said that a really important person in her life was named Eric and that would be a great name. The next day we were on our way to the attorney to get the paperwork and CPS called my husband and said that because the baby tested positive for Cocaine, they were going to step in and place him in foster care since she didn't want him. We were devestated and tried everything we could to bring him home but it wasn't meant to be. We found out the next day that another couple went to the hospital the night before and because they had all the paperwork ready to adopt, they would be taking him. Because we hadn't decided yet on how to proceed with adopting, we hadn't even did a home study and without that, there was no way we could adopt anyway. We were hoping to at least be able to bring him home possibly as a foster child and get everything done while he was with us. I guess not. My heart was shattered. Just as I felt the instant love that a mother feels for her child the first time she looks at him, I also felt the heartbreak of a mother that has lost their child. I just thank God that he went to a couple that wanted a child as much as we did and hopefully he is getting all the love he deserves. I can't bring myself to get rid of the pictures that we took of him. I carry one with me.

Well, how does this tie back into Jimmy loosing his job? Since he worked at the hospital where the baby was born, he should have never told her that we were looking to adopt a child. He broke hospital policy and they were afraid that she could sue the hospital by saying that my husband talked her into giving her baby up. When this was first going on, the hospital told Jimmy that they didn't like the situation but they wouldn't interfere with the adoption. We now know that that was never true. After Jimmy was terminated for supposedly trying to buy the baby from the woman (as the hospital administrator said), he found out a few days later that someone in administration ended up adopting the baby. Jimmy wasn't angry with being fired because he felt that he couldn't work for the hospital if it was going to punish him for trying to become a father. This was the last straw with his job anyway. The hospital is owned by Catholic Health Services and because the Catholic church is in charge of that, our attempt at in-vitro fertilization was unsuccessful because they don't condone technology helping a couple to conceive even though our coverage would have paid for in-vitro if he worked for a non-catholic company. Well, he is again working for another Catholic hospital and they do know what happened in July but his new boss wasn't concerned with that because he knows that my husband is a great employee.

I guess that is all for now. Catch you later. :)

August 29, 2006

Time for an update

Wow, I can't believe that it's been so long since I last updated my blog. I have become quite the master-lurker though. There have been many new things going on that I don't think I can list them all now. My niece Melanie was born on January 21st and is just adorable. Her older brother Aidan continues to be the apple of my eye. He just turned 4 and is starting preschool next Wednesday. I can't believe how time flies. He is so excited and already has his little Buzz Lightyear backpack packed and ready for his first day. Jimmy and I have a new edition to our little family. We are now the proud parents of a 5 1/2 month old Cockalier named Jazmine. FYI - Cockalier is Cocker Spaniel/Cavalier King Charles Spaniel mix. She is a miniature version of Lady from Lady and the Tramp. She is our little diva. She terrorizes my lab Belle. She will walk up behind Belle and bite the back of her legs or her tail and poor Belle just stands there and takes it. She is a good girl. After deciding to refinance our house this past July, Jimmy and I have the funds to go ahead with adoption. Since making the decision to adopt a baby, the pressure of trying to conceive our own child is so much less and we don't argue as much anymore. I have to say that I never knew there was so much involved with adoption though. We haven't decided if we are going to try to adopt domestically or go abroad to find a baby. We actually almost adopted a beautiful little boy but that fell through and it is a whole story of it's own and still too painful to talk about right now. I guess that is it on the update front. I do hope to update this blog regularly because I really do need a place to vent and get out my ideas and thoughts without saying the wrong thing and getting into a fight with anyone especially my husband.

January 18, 2006

Hi Again

Well damn!!!

I really have been gone for a long time. I think I have totally lost anyone that would have looked at my blog. Oh well. I have been lurking since my last post and I have posted here and there. A lot has happened since I last blogged. I got a new computer and I also got a laptop from my parents for Christmas. Jimmy and I are still trying to conceive a baby but so far, no luck. Although I must say that all this trying is very fun. LOL. We even started looking into various adoption procedures. If anyone has any info or tips on this front, I would greatly appreciate it. My sister will be induced this Friday and hopefully I will have a niece on the same day. I must say that my sister has been miserable for the past month. She has been having labor pains and the doctor keeps sending her home but he promised her that since she is now 37 weeks, he will induce her on Friday if her body doesn't get moving on its own. I can't wait!! I guess because she wants me in the delivery room with her and her husband. She says that she wants me to experience it with her because she knows that with my own issues, I may never know what childbirth is like. I know I will be an absolute mess and very emotional but I can't wait. Well, that is all for now. I just wanted to bring my life up to date. I'll be back soon.